Friday, October 31, 2014

Spooktacular Blog Hop! Scary Things

Halloween is a great time to reflect on fear.

Lots of things scare me. Like most fears, most of mine are ridiculous. I fear failure, even though I've experienced a lot of success in my life. Maybe I succeed because I fear failure and don't want to have to face myself. And my other fears are pretty irrational:

1. Dinosaurs. Terrified of them. You know that practical joke that went viral where someone put a big old fake Tyrannosaurus outside a guy's window? Would have given me a heart attack. For real. You say dinosaurs have been extinct for millions of years? Doesn't matter. They're still scary. Jurassic Park on movie night? Not happening.

2. Sharks. I love water. I love to swim. I only go in the ocean in large groups and armed with a harpoon gun. Jaws makes me run from the room. On the other hand, I did watch Sharknado recently. Maybe I'm recovering.

3. Approaching strangers. It's a funny thing. I can walk up to people who are doing a job and ask for help. This is not a problem in Home Depot or any other place of business. But I cannot walk up to someone in a social situation and introduce myself. What are they going to do to me? Probably nothing dire.

When you get right down to it, I'm afraid of two things: failure and being eaten. Because fear of approaching strangers is really a fear of rejection and rejection is a kind of failure. And dinosaurs and sharks eat people. Actually, so does rejection. It eats the soul. So maybe I have just one fear, of being eaten.


Do you have any irrational fears? Share your fear in a comment to be entered into my Halloween drawing for a $20 Amazon gift card.

Just do two things to enter:

  • Leave a comment on this post about a fear or, if you have none, some helpful advice for one of mine.
  • Include an email address so I can contact you should you win.

I will draw the winner on Monday morning, November 3rd.

Happy Halloween! Take a few minutes to visit the other participants in this Spooktacular Blog Hop, too. There are more drawings for more great prizes.

47 comments:

  1. I'm most scared of failing to be honest. I'm an ambitious person and I feel humiliated if I fail in something. I guess I'm not mature enough yet to deal with it LOL

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    1. I totally understand. Really. Fear of failure keeps me from doing so many things and I suspect you know how crippling that can be. Those who don't try may never fail, but often never do some pretty amazing things. *Hugs* Nice seeing you in the chat today!

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  2. Oh sorry forgot the mail - shayla.mist@gmail.com

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  3. I'm afraid people won't like me. It's a fear left over from moving so many times when I was younger and had to start a new school.

    jasdarts at hotmail dot com

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    1. Oh, gosh yes. You moved around a lot too, then. My dad dragged us all over the country. Never more than two years in the same school. Always being the "new kid" is really rough. :( People don't like you and then you get afraid of that, because it's really isolating.

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  4. I have an irrational fear of scarecrows. They just hang there and follow you with their beady-button eyes... CREEPY!!

    witchinreader@gmail.com

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    1. They are kind of creepy... and they DO watch people!

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  5. I think sometimes I'm scared of succeeding rather than failure. Success requires discipline and follow through and has so many expectations. It used to be much easier not to try. What a ridiculous notion!

    And I sometimes worry that the box of cookies will be bad for me if they're allowed to live on the counter for a period of time. Better to eat the whole box now. LOL

    mannramblings@gmail.com

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    1. Interesting. Maybe it really is fear of success. Now I'm pondering that. Does the cook fear also apply to Halloween candy. Because that candy does evil things. I figure I'm going to eat it anyway, so might as well do it now and avoid the guilt of doing it later.

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  6. Scared of spiders, specifically the harvestman or daddy longlegs (I shiver just thinking about them), and heights.
    shhp61@aol.com

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    1. Heights make me nervous, too. And you're not the only one who doesn't like spiders!

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  7. Yup, spiders too. The just freak me completely out.Thanks for taking part in the hop too!
    ~M

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    1. I love Halloween and I love blog hops. I actually love giving prizes, too. :) Spiders, not so much. lol

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  8. I share your fears of failure and being eaten. Also spiders and falling. amaquilante(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. I think that's why we humans gather into tribes, to increase success and decrease our chances of being eaten. :)

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  9. I'm afraid of Alzheimers, but since my younger sister has early-onset dementia at barely 40, not unfounded.

    skadlec1@yahoo.com

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    1. That's really sad, Susan. No wonder you worry about that. :( I can't think of anything sadder than to lose oneself.

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  10. Eye injuries terrify me...I couldn't even look at eye patches as a kid, because I imagined gruesomeness underneath!

    Trix, vitajex(at)Aol(Dot)com

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    1. That's a genuinely scary injury. :( Bet most of us don't think of that kind of thing very often, otherwise we'd be waymore scared about it!

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  11. My most irrational fear is from the movie Sixth Sense. I always think dead people's ghosts will start walking around in my house. Super weird, but hey, that's why it's irrational. I also don't like lots of little holes in one place, it freaks me out!!
    nidabland@msn.com

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    1. That's not the usual fear, but I can see where it would be terrifying if you're imagining it! I bet horror movies could put the little holes fear to work in a big way, too. There's something scary about any hole. What's in it... where it might lead... how did it get there. So much uncertainty!

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  12. I do have fears. I hate sharks as well.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

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    1. Glad to see I've got company against the sharks. :)

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  13. Its not an irrational fear BUT a huge fear of mine and probably quite a few people its the fear of dying , the thought that after I'm dead I will be completely forgotten....also it doesn't help that I have seen movies and shows where you see people being buried alive and they are in the coffin screaming for help and no one hears them.....UGH !!! NOW I'm gonna have that stuck in my head tonight....oh well everyone needs a good scare on halloween .....

    fallen_angel_2473@yahoo.com

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    1. It's as good a time as any to talk about such things. :-/ Fear of dying is only irrational if a person is perfectly safe. That we're afraid of dying is part of the very healthy survival instinct. :) But being buried alive... horrible. :(

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  14. I can relate to the fear of failure....I don't think anyone wants to be eaten alive either...I also have a fear of heights. I can't look down even if I'm only up two steps (an inch or two from the ground) I keep thinking it'll be a long fall down. It's especially horrible at museums, outside someones porch and schools when I have to go up five or more steps and there's no railing. I just get so terrified.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com
    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

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    1. That can be rough. *hugs* Some places are just horrible for steps, like baseball parks and theaters. :(

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  15. I am deathly afraid of roaches. If I see one I freak out, even if it's on TV. I actually called my hubby home from work one day to kill one cause I started having a panic attack. Any other bug no problem but roaches *shivers*. Can't even type the word without looking around me to see if any are near.
    Thanks for the giveaway.

    fsteph55(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Bugs in general are creepy. :( But yeah, roaches are especially nasty!

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  16. My biggest fear is claustrophobia. I don't mind the small, tight places as long as I know I can open the door. It's when I'm not in control of when I can get out that I freak.
    In high school I was in the drama club. We were having a dress rehearsal for a production and the dressing room was also used for prop storage so there was a padlock on the outside of the room and bars on the only window. One of my cast mates thought he'd get a laugh out of locking me in that room. I went nuts, and when someone finally took the lock off the door and I got out I started laying into the guy who locked me in. He was so scared of the way I was acting that he was backing away as I was coming at him and he fell into the orchestra pit and wound up with a broken leg.
    I never laid a finger on the guy, even though I wanted to rip him to shreds. I did take some satisfaction in the fact that he had to suffer through prom and graduation with a broken leg. (Snicker)

    Kathy C
    katcleve25@gmail.com

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    1. I feel for the guy, but he did something really mean! He kinda deserved it, didn't he? And claustrophobia can be really bad because you never know if you will be caught in a small place. I hope you never get stuck in another small room. *hugs*

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  17. My big irrational fear would be falling down, so that I freeze if I'm a walk bridge over a deep valley or going down long stairs without side rails.
    strive4bst(AT) yahoo (Dot)com

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    1. Stairs without side rails are death traps for me. I need a rail! And a bridge over a gorge might as well be a tightrope. :(

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  18. I have a fear of closet doors being opened. It comes from when I was 7 years old I woke up from a nap and saw something(which I can't remember clearly now though it was something not human) that terrified me and had me screaming for my mom. Since then I make sure the closet door is shut tight when I go to visit my parents or sisters. At home I have the door blocked so it can't open at all. Thank you for the chance.

    marsh10(at)netzero(dot)com

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    1. I don't blame you for securing those closet doors! I don't blame you at all. *hugs*

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  19. spiders....specially FUNNELWEBS...they scare the crap out of me and after having one in my bedroom I was a screaming freaking mess

    leetee2007(at)hotmail(dot)com

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    1. Those funnel webs are damn scary! Yikes!

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  20. I have always had a fear of success, something my childhood left me with I suppose. I end up sabotaging almost everything I do without realizing it.

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    1. Yeah, success can be a whole 'nother nest of problems. :( I wonder how many of us do sabotage ourselves?

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  21. As a child I was full of fears and worked diligently throughout my life to eliminate all of them. I've done some crazy, ridiculous, damn stupid shit to get over being afraid of things. But there's one that no matter how often I try, no matter what I do, I can't get past it. I hate flying, and I fear it. What's so interesting to me, personally, is that I dream of having the power to fly all the time. But gods, gods... put me in a plane or a goddess save me, a helicopter? I have to be sedated. I seriously can't even do a measly little New York to Boston flight anymore without a damn xanax. And Pittsburgh to LA? Oh hell, break out Prince Valium. I cannot comprehend traveling to someplace like Australia or Japan, even though I would desperately love to visit these wonderful places, because I FEAR FLYING so much. And it's not that I think the plane's going to crash or blow up or be lost in some mystical triangle. It's the air. Inside the plane. It's that I know I can't open a window or a door. It's knowing all these people are breathing and sweating and coughing and choking and the air is being constantly recycled and there's no FRESH AIR. Yes, I know it's filtered. Yes, I know it's technically cleaner than the smog-filled air of most inner cities. Logically and rationally I know all this. Doesn't stop me from having the panic attacks. Doesn't stop me from needing the sedatives.

    What can I say? I pay for first class, turn that little blower thing on full blast and pray for the pills to work FAST. Now you all know my secret - and all because Tali is afraid of being eaten. Maybe next time I have to fly you can come with me & hold my hand, Tali. Last time I checked they didn't allow dinosaurs or sharks on planes.

    TMcCallahan@aol.com

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    1. I've never been afraid of flying (no more than usual) and fly all the time. So you can definitely travel with me if the occasion arises, Tucker. I used to work with a Fear of Flying program (I was an airport exec) and you're not alone. One of the big contributors to fear of flying is claustrophobia and what you mention, the feeling of not getting fresh air. So people panic. But yeah, you can't open the window on a plane! Bad idea. :(

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  22. I'm still terrified of the dark. I'm positive that boogey men are going to jump out at me if I go down into the cellar to do laundry. My husband works nights, so I'm alone with the kids. I turn on every light and often leave at least two on all night, even after I go to bed. I'm especially afraid of being outside alone at night. Blech. Don't even want to think about it!

    vampwriterblog@gmail.com

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    1. I think fear of the dark is the other primal phobia I was trying to think of earlier. Kind of hard-wired into lots of us. Bet it comes from our deep past where being out in the dark meant getting eaten! Thank goodness for modern technology and lights!

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  23. This is quite tricky to answer, as I think I share a few with those already mentioned although I believe that they are part of our survival instincts. However not sure where this one comes from as I hate answering the phone if I don't know who is calling and I am really not happy in big cities with building about about four floors (I am a country girl, who likes her countryside, trees, open ranges...) Thank you for being part of this blog :) slholland22 (at) hotmail (dot) com

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    1. I think you're right, Sula, about most fears being a big part of the survival instinct package. Answering the phone is definitely more modern. Not liking big cities has good cause because cities are dirties, noisier, confusing and, usually, more dangerous. I know at least one "city person" who gets freaked out by open spaces, though. Driving through South Dakota he said, "There's no where to hide!"

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  24. Roaches, I hate them... I've had them crawl on my bed and even worse, fly onto my shoulder. *shudder* Here in florida they are everywhere and huge! Ugh...
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

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    1. Florida roaches are gigantic! They're almost big enough to eat babies. Seriously, though, they're huge. :(

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